Children notice bodies and tools. When an adult shushes every question, they may learn that disability is embarrassing. When an adult explains a stranger's medical history, they learn that disabled people's privacy is public property.
There is a middle route: answer the question that was asked, use accurate ordinary words, and remind the group that the person decides what personal information to share.
Name the visible tool or barrier
“That is a mobility scooter. It helps Willy travel farther.” “The entrance has steps, so this route does not work for him.” These sentences are concrete and do not guess a diagnosis.
If you do not know, say so. “People use this tool for different reasons” is both truthful and respectful.
Protect the person, not adult comfort
Redirect invasive questions: “That is personal information Willy could choose to share. We can talk about how the scooter works in the story.”
Speak to a disabled child directly rather than asking a companion to answer. Never invite a child to represent every disabled person.
Move from curiosity to relationship
Ask what Willy enjoys, what he notices, and which idea he contributes. Children need permission to see difference and equally strong permission to see ordinary friendship.
Close with a practical norm: ask before helping, listen to the answer, and do not touch mobility equipment without permission.
Which answer gives useful information without telling someone else's private story?